Posted on July 31, 2015
If your idea of a good date in London is a quick drink at the local you may need to think again. Life is precious so why not get out there and do something fun and exciting and impress your date at the same time. Here’s a rundown of my top ten date venues in London and why I think they are perfect for a date.
- London Cru Urban Winery
London Cru is central London’s first winery. From tours of the winery to wine tasting classes there will be more than enough things to going on to keep the conversation flowing. And if it doesn’t flow? You’re in a winery which I think is really a cool place for dates.
- Evans and Peel Detective Agency
I always see myself as a bit of a detective during childhood and so the dream is still alive. I just get me and my date down to Earls Court for a few drinks in a basement which has been converted into a detective agency. I’ll have a fake case and everything.
Cool down with an ice at snowflake, a luxury gelato boutique. And who will ever refuse a nice cold ice cream?
If my date is a foodie and I mean a REAL foodie, then I take him to Archipelago where Python and mealworms are on the menu. If you’re lucky, maybe you’ll get bitten by the love bug salad.
- Regents Park Open Air Theatre
Enjoy a glass of wine watching fantastic performances of some of the classics. My date will be very impressed, particularly if I remember to bring a blanket for when the sun starts to set.
- Mr Foggs
Filled with imaginary souvenirs of an imaginary traveller, Mr Foggs is an adventure in itself. I set the scene for the adventures to come, and bring my date here to try the spellbinding cocktails.
- V & A Bar Café
Hidden within the depths of this incredible Museum is a wonderful little bar café which transforms into a bustling hub of excitement on Friday evenings. And just a few paces away from the world’s most iconic pieces of design. Romance alert!
- Chocolate Tasting Tour of London
Chocolate tasting. Need I say any more?
- The Booking Office
Firstly, there’s nothing like a grand old station bar to get the romance going and set the scene for a delicious dinner and drinks. Secondly, you have the option to spontaneously jump on a Eurostar to Paris for dinner. It requires your date to have had the foresight to pack their passport.
- Snorkelling with Sharks
Yes you heard right, snorkelling with sharks…in London! At the London Aquarium to be precise, not the Thames you’ll be pleased to know. Now we’re not suggesting this is a first date activity but if you find out your date has a sense of adventure this might be right up their street!
Posted on February 1, 2015
Being in a relationship isn’t essential to happiness by any means, but wasting your time in the dating world is a quick way to make yourself miserable. I made this list and low & behold, things did change. I got some perspective, some self-respect and eventually, a really great boyfriend. Now I share these tips with my friends on a regular basis and I would like to share them with you, because we’re all friends here and I can’t stand having my friends go through the same dating troubles I did.
- HAVE STANDARDS
Hold your ideal partner to the same standards you hold yourself to. The more you know what you want, the more likely you will be able to weed out the ones you don’t.
1.5 THE FIRST STANDARD NEEDS TO BE THEY ARE INTERESTED IN YOU TOO
If they aren’t interested in dating you, chasing them and pushing your agendas on them is NOT going to change their minds.
- PRIORITIZE YOU
If you want to go to the gym three times a week, paint more and get a new job, THEN DO IT! You can do anything you want, especially if you make the time for it.
- KNOW WHEN TO MOVE ALONG
The more time you spend trying to make things work when they aren’t, the less likely you are going to be open to new opportunities.
- REPRESENT YOURSELF TRUTHFULLY
Keep this in mind: “You can’t say the wrong thing to the right person.” Let it be your mantra because it’s a true story, guys.
- SAY NO
If you know you’re not interested in someone, just say “No, thanks.” Really. You’re saving yourself and the person you’re denying a lot of time and energy. I know, it can be hard and sometimes awkward, but honesty really is the best policy.
- KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE “RIGHT” KIND OF ATTENTION AND THE “WRONG” KIND OF ATTENTION
The “right” kind of attention is the kind of attention that leaves you feeling respected and good about yourself. The “wrong” kind of attention is the kind of attention you find yourself grabbing for after a boy who has ignored you for a month decides he wants to take you out for drinks. Dude, he’s been ignoring you for a month.
- PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE
Give yourself some time and just go with the flow. I am the most impatient person in the world and when I devised this list for myself, I promised myself I would follow these tips for six months and see how it worked out.
- BE BRAVE
All these tips take bravery. You need to be brave to be aware of yourself, be brave to be yourself, be brave to make changes and be brave to have faith.
I can’t remember a time in my life from second grade to the age of twenty-two that I wasn’t chasing after dudes who flat out didn’t dig me. Honestly, I was a pathetic, excuse-making, little ninny who ended up in some truly unhealthy relationships until one day I sat myself down and laid the law down. I knew something had to change, and that change had to begin with me.
Posted on August 10, 2014
Although the financial aspect of dating has changed drastically in recent decades, it is just one aspect of dating etiquette. Here is some more general etiquette advice for women going out on dates basing from my experience:
Give Him a Chance. I may have had a long week at work, and I may be tired of the dating scene, but if I have agreed to go out on a date, I need to put my best foot forward. The man I am going out with may have been looking forward to this date all week, and perhaps had to step out of his comfort zone to ask me out. And so, I do have a good attitude and an open mind while I am on the date. I could end up having the night of my life.
Dress to Impress. I may not feel like dressing up or trying to impress my date, but he may be expecting more than jeans and an old t-shirt. If a man is buying you a nice dinner or dressing up for you, show your appreciation by freshening up before you go on your date. It is a nice gesture, especially since men really enjoy seeing the woman they are taking out all dressed up.
Arrive on Time. Unfortunately, women are known for being late. I show my date respect by arriving on time. If you know you will be running behind, call ahead to let your date know. That way, he is not wondering if you have bailed.
Don’t Talk About Old Relationships. There is no bigger turnoff than a woman talking about her old boyfriends. If you say something positive about an old boyfriend, it shows that you admire him and may still have feelings for him. On the other hand, if you say something negative, how does your date know that you won’t do the same to him?
Don’t Dominate the Conversation. Another turnoff is when someone dominates the conversation, so I make sure I give the man a chance to talk about himself. That is also the only way I will get to know him.
Don’t Talk About Marriage or Children. If you talk about marriage or children, you may come off as too desperate, and it may scare your date away. I show my date some respect by avoiding a pushy subject, such as marriage, too early in the relationship.
Don’t Drink Too Much. First of all, if the man is paying, he will pay for all your drinks, which will quickly add up on the bill. Secondly, you don’t want to come off as though you have a drinking problem, which may be a red flag for the man. Most importantly, you need to make sure you are thinking straight. If I am out on a first date with a man I do not know, I do not want to make myself vulnerable by having too much to drink.
Be Interested in Him. I may not find his profession as an accountant or computer programmer riveting, but I make eye contact and show him that I am interested in what he has to say.
Don’t Play Games. I don’t play games by acting as though I am interested in him, or not interested in him.
Don’t Chase Him. I let the man be the pursuer, and wait for him to contact me. Women are sometimes ready to express their feelings much earlier in their relationships than men are, so don’t pressure him to express his feelings prematurely.
Be Honest. I don’t give the guy the run-around if I know it is not going to work out, and I don’t avoid the subject of a second date if I need to tell him that I won’t be going on one. This way, he doesn’t get his hopes up and expect a second date.
End the Date if Necessary. If the date is going on too long, and I am ready to go home, it’s okay if I end the date. I just say that I am ready to call it a night. If I do not plan on going on a second date, I don’t hint that a second date is a possibility. There is no reason to carry on the date through coffee and dessert if it is miserable and not going anywhere. My date may appreciate my honesty, and the end to a rough night.
These are all just basic knowledge but a good knowledge foundation can end your date not an awkward or a failure one.
Posted on June 2, 2014
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Aside from my corny intro, maybe I got your eyebrows raised with this one. I know it’s been a tough ride for most of you but I think I figured out the secret to making dates better.
Listen to your date.
Listen, as in stay quiet and pay attention to the person in front of you and not listen, as in stay quiet and let him have all the fun talking. Women, we all know that you want to talk about your experiences and share your life with another person, even with just a bit of it. But overwhelming your date isn’t exactly a good strategy.
So you might ask me, what’s a good strategy.
A great strategy would be to leave your guys hanging. Again, it’s not about leaving them wanting more for you sexually but leaving them interested about the type of work that you do and what you’re all about.
The truth is, both men and women love mind games. Even if in the end, this would play out as the moth who dove into the flame, this is what keeps passion and inspiration to go for the other person alive.
The challenge is maintaining that rapport once you’re all satisfied and feeling great with your date.
By mind games, we mean subtle discussions over dinner. Some clues that use the context of something else to see if he has the same vibe. You do understand what I’m saying. It means connecting in a way that you don’t have to state the obvious.
This is why some guys read some of our actions as friendzone-ing them when we’re actually just wanting to get to know them a little better so we can trust them.
But there are some big no-no’s when it comes to dating guys.
One, you should never, ever talk about your exes. If you love your guy. Don’t talk about your crushes either. It can crush the date’s ego and think that you’re not interested in them. Of course, they don’t want you treating them like your best friend or girlfriend.
Second is never sharing too much about yourself. As girls, we all know how much we want to hog the conversation and talk about ourselves. Men, being polite, will just let you go on. But there’s a point that men will also break and refuse to talk about, or even acknowledge a second date with you simply because you’re too talkative.
Third is dress properly. No, don’t go with that feminism vibe that ‘he should accept me for what I am’. Girls, dressing up is a way to show your date that you’ve prepared nicely and you want to give him a chance to be serious with you. You want him to feel important at least for a bit.
It also gives you the right to say he wasn’t prepared when you’ve invested time in choosing the right clothes to wear during your date.
So, preliminary pointers aside, welcome to my blog! I hope you enjoy your stay and you find something useful here!
Desiree Avalon signing out!