Posted on December 23, 2015
Now you think you have actually met a very cool guy who asked you out and you are so excited about it but the real thing is that you don’t know what to do first, right? We all know first time dating could be really nerve-wracking and overwhelming.
So what would you do to lessen the nerves that inevitably come with first-date plans? Well, we have sought some professional advice from our dating department. As normal as it sounds but being yourself is probably the best way to ensure that you will not only have a good time on your first date but also you can be sure to get a second date with the guy too.
With that said, we have few dos and don’ts to keep in mind when you are planning to go out with someone totally new and so to have solid first impression with the guy, you need to see this dating guide we have for you.
DO – Speak Up
You don’t have to be just in the side sitting quietly while your date is telling you all the things you need to do, eat or drink. Don’t let him tell you everything; you need to speak up for yourself too. Particularly if you don’t like the food he had ordered or the drinks perhaps. It will only look strange and awkward if you only tell him afterwards. You should also be part of the decision because it is your date as well.
DO – Be On Time
The whole “grand entrance” thing that you see in the movies still exists in normal life but you should not do it in your first date. You will surely make a better impression if you show up on the scheduled time or on time for the date. Guys are into this kind of details that is why they also make sure they will not show up late on the scheduled time and place.
DO – Keep Your Phone on Your Bag
This is really important especially for guys so ladies, take note of this one. The act of obsessively checking your phone every two minutes could be a bonafide deal breaker. Aside from too much distraction, it is rude as well towards your date unless you are really planning to avoid the conversation with him intentionally. For first time date, you need to pay attention to your conversation rather than your phone.
DO – Ask Questions
To ensure that your conversation will go on a steady flow, you can simple ask questions about him but nothing too personal at first. Just simple questions like ideas about him, his likes and dislikes etc. The questions you need to avoid are about politics, religion, past relationships and money-related ones. It might bug him or feel uncomfortable about these kinds of questions so you better not include it in your questions to him.
We have introduced to you the dos when it comes to first-time dating. Now we will see to it that you won’t do these things:
DON’T – Wear Things Uneasy or Uncomfortable Looking
Of course for our first-time date, we want to look our best but it is not the time to wear your 5-inch stilettos or plunging neckline dress for a date test. First dates always have this anxiety-filled and you should be comfortable when the time comes. Wear things you know you look good but also will make you cool, calm and collected at all times.
DON’T – Overdo Your Appearance
There are other girls who are so self-conscious that from time to time, they will go to the ladies room to check their lipstick, hair or re-apply their makeup. Not all the guys have the patient when it comes to this kind of doing. You can try putting effort into your appearance as you want BEFORE you meet your date. This is to make your energy more focus and to have a solid conversation instead of worrying about how you look.
Good luck to all the ladies for their first-time date!
Posted on December 13, 2015
In the world of dating for men and women, time is the constant thing that changes everything. When thinking of joining the dating timeline this time around, you need to be sure you know what are the latest dating dos and don’ts for both men and women.
Before, dating was easier. Everyone thinks a man courting a woman and then both of them knew the end goal of the courtship process if it goes well will be marriage. But, now that both men and women are evolving socially, dating has become far more complicated than you could ever imagine it would be. Today, hanging out and hooking up have replaced the traditional courtship ways according to research and public surveys. Some or perhaps most of the people these days would consider this kind of thing or new direction as advantageous.
Despite the fact of this kind of thrill and excitement in the modern dating world, there are still many men and women who seek out dating advice that might help them find meaningful connection that they want to yearn for and have not found it in the modern type of dating.
Here’s how to enjoy your date and have more meaningful and productive dates in the future for both men and women:
1. Be the person you present online and offline
In other words, you need to be true to yourself. Men most of the times likes women who are genuinely true to themselves and not afraid to show their real self with their dates when the time calls for it. On the other side, women are pleasantly surprised to meet a man who portrays himself accurately. When it comes to dating, trust is necessary and it starts with being honest about the superficial things like your age, interests in life and others.
2. Treat your date responsibly
Men should always be a gentleman to their date at all cost. Women like men who treat them special or as their own sister, daughter or someone they care about. You can start by being a man of your word, well-mannered, courteous and respectful in your words and actions.
3. Have integrity at all time
For men and women who are in the dating circle, always remember to be honest. If you are not satisfied with your date, you don’t make him or her create false hope. In this kind of situation, kind honesty is best against empty words and promises. Say what you want to say to your date before it is too late.
4. Men ask the women out first
It is part of our culture that many of us prefer men to still make the first move romantically even though this time around women lead every day in their professional lives. You can ask them personally, through phone calls or visiting her in the workplace during her break and then it is your moment to ask her for a friendly date first.
5. Patience is a virtue
Aside from being thoughtful to your date and open to your date, when it comes to dating socially today, patience is still a virtue to pursue. You don’t need to rush things so that your dating cycle would not turn into a disaster. You will never know it might end up into a meaningful connection between the two of you.
When it comes to dating in this advanced world, identifying the common tendencies that show up in your dating life is essential. Afterwards, it is up to you to work on changing yourself so those tendencies won’t show up again. Enjoy these dating tips everyone and don’t forget to visit free trial phone chat for more meaningful and romantic dating tips for men and women of this generation.
Posted on July 31, 2015
If your idea of a good date in London is a quick drink at the local you may need to think again. Life is precious so why not get out there and do something fun and exciting and impress your date at the same time. Here’s a rundown of my top ten date venues in London and why I think they are perfect for a date.
- London Cru Urban Winery
London Cru is central London’s first winery. From tours of the winery to wine tasting classes there will be more than enough things to going on to keep the conversation flowing. And if it doesn’t flow? You’re in a winery which I think is really a cool place for dates.
- Evans and Peel Detective Agency
I always see myself as a bit of a detective during childhood and so the dream is still alive. I just get me and my date down to Earls Court for a few drinks in a basement which has been converted into a detective agency. I’ll have a fake case and everything.
Cool down with an ice at snowflake, a luxury gelato boutique. And who will ever refuse a nice cold ice cream?
If my date is a foodie and I mean a REAL foodie, then I take him to Archipelago where Python and mealworms are on the menu. If you’re lucky, maybe you’ll get bitten by the love bug salad.
- Regents Park Open Air Theatre
Enjoy a glass of wine watching fantastic performances of some of the classics. My date will be very impressed, particularly if I remember to bring a blanket for when the sun starts to set.
- Mr Foggs
Filled with imaginary souvenirs of an imaginary traveller, Mr Foggs is an adventure in itself. I set the scene for the adventures to come, and bring my date here to try the spellbinding cocktails.
- V & A Bar Café
Hidden within the depths of this incredible Museum is a wonderful little bar café which transforms into a bustling hub of excitement on Friday evenings. And just a few paces away from the world’s most iconic pieces of design. Romance alert!
- Chocolate Tasting Tour of London
Chocolate tasting. Need I say any more?
- The Booking Office
Firstly, there’s nothing like a grand old station bar to get the romance going and set the scene for a delicious dinner and drinks. Secondly, you have the option to spontaneously jump on a Eurostar to Paris for dinner. It requires your date to have had the foresight to pack their passport.
- Snorkelling with Sharks
Yes you heard right, snorkelling with sharks…in London! At the London Aquarium to be precise, not the Thames you’ll be pleased to know. Now we’re not suggesting this is a first date activity but if you find out your date has a sense of adventure this might be right up their street!
Posted on February 1, 2015
Being in a relationship isn’t essential to happiness by any means, but wasting your time in the dating world is a quick way to make yourself miserable. I made this list and low & behold, things did change. I got some perspective, some self-respect and eventually, a really great boyfriend. Now I share these tips with my friends on a regular basis and I would like to share them with you, because we’re all friends here and I can’t stand having my friends go through the same dating troubles I did.
- HAVE STANDARDS
Hold your ideal partner to the same standards you hold yourself to. The more you know what you want, the more likely you will be able to weed out the ones you don’t.
1.5 THE FIRST STANDARD NEEDS TO BE THEY ARE INTERESTED IN YOU TOO
If they aren’t interested in dating you, chasing them and pushing your agendas on them is NOT going to change their minds.
- PRIORITIZE YOU
If you want to go to the gym three times a week, paint more and get a new job, THEN DO IT! You can do anything you want, especially if you make the time for it.
- KNOW WHEN TO MOVE ALONG
The more time you spend trying to make things work when they aren’t, the less likely you are going to be open to new opportunities.
- REPRESENT YOURSELF TRUTHFULLY
Keep this in mind: “You can’t say the wrong thing to the right person.” Let it be your mantra because it’s a true story, guys.
- SAY NO
If you know you’re not interested in someone, just say “No, thanks.” Really. You’re saving yourself and the person you’re denying a lot of time and energy. I know, it can be hard and sometimes awkward, but honesty really is the best policy.
- KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE “RIGHT” KIND OF ATTENTION AND THE “WRONG” KIND OF ATTENTION
The “right” kind of attention is the kind of attention that leaves you feeling respected and good about yourself. The “wrong” kind of attention is the kind of attention you find yourself grabbing for after a boy who has ignored you for a month decides he wants to take you out for drinks. Dude, he’s been ignoring you for a month.
- PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE
Give yourself some time and just go with the flow. I am the most impatient person in the world and when I devised this list for myself, I promised myself I would follow these tips for six months and see how it worked out.
- BE BRAVE
All these tips take bravery. You need to be brave to be aware of yourself, be brave to be yourself, be brave to make changes and be brave to have faith.
I can’t remember a time in my life from second grade to the age of twenty-two that I wasn’t chasing after dudes who flat out didn’t dig me. Honestly, I was a pathetic, excuse-making, little ninny who ended up in some truly unhealthy relationships until one day I sat myself down and laid the law down. I knew something had to change, and that change had to begin with me.
Posted on August 10, 2014
Although the financial aspect of dating has changed drastically in recent decades, it is just one aspect of dating etiquette. Here is some more general etiquette advice for women going out on dates basing from my experience:
Give Him a Chance. I may have had a long week at work, and I may be tired of the dating scene, but if I have agreed to go out on a date, I need to put my best foot forward. The man I am going out with may have been looking forward to this date all week, and perhaps had to step out of his comfort zone to ask me out. And so, I do have a good attitude and an open mind while I am on the date. I could end up having the night of my life.
Dress to Impress. I may not feel like dressing up or trying to impress my date, but he may be expecting more than jeans and an old t-shirt. If a man is buying you a nice dinner or dressing up for you, show your appreciation by freshening up before you go on your date. It is a nice gesture, especially since men really enjoy seeing the woman they are taking out all dressed up.
Arrive on Time. Unfortunately, women are known for being late. I show my date respect by arriving on time. If you know you will be running behind, call ahead to let your date know. That way, he is not wondering if you have bailed.
Don’t Talk About Old Relationships. There is no bigger turnoff than a woman talking about her old boyfriends. If you say something positive about an old boyfriend, it shows that you admire him and may still have feelings for him. On the other hand, if you say something negative, how does your date know that you won’t do the same to him?
Don’t Dominate the Conversation. Another turnoff is when someone dominates the conversation, so I make sure I give the man a chance to talk about himself. That is also the only way I will get to know him.
Don’t Talk About Marriage or Children. If you talk about marriage or children, you may come off as too desperate, and it may scare your date away. I show my date some respect by avoiding a pushy subject, such as marriage, too early in the relationship.
Don’t Drink Too Much. First of all, if the man is paying, he will pay for all your drinks, which will quickly add up on the bill. Secondly, you don’t want to come off as though you have a drinking problem, which may be a red flag for the man. Most importantly, you need to make sure you are thinking straight. If I am out on a first date with a man I do not know, I do not want to make myself vulnerable by having too much to drink.
Be Interested in Him. I may not find his profession as an accountant or computer programmer riveting, but I make eye contact and show him that I am interested in what he has to say.
Don’t Play Games. I don’t play games by acting as though I am interested in him, or not interested in him.
Don’t Chase Him. I let the man be the pursuer, and wait for him to contact me. Women are sometimes ready to express their feelings much earlier in their relationships than men are, so don’t pressure him to express his feelings prematurely.
Be Honest. I don’t give the guy the run-around if I know it is not going to work out, and I don’t avoid the subject of a second date if I need to tell him that I won’t be going on one. This way, he doesn’t get his hopes up and expect a second date.
End the Date if Necessary. If the date is going on too long, and I am ready to go home, it’s okay if I end the date. I just say that I am ready to call it a night. If I do not plan on going on a second date, I don’t hint that a second date is a possibility. There is no reason to carry on the date through coffee and dessert if it is miserable and not going anywhere. My date may appreciate my honesty, and the end to a rough night.
These are all just basic knowledge but a good knowledge foundation can end your date not an awkward or a failure one.
Posted on June 2, 2014
Desiree Avalon signing in.
Aside from my corny intro, maybe I got your eyebrows raised with this one. I know it’s been a tough ride for most of you but I think I figured out the secret to making dates better.
Listen to your date.
Listen, as in stay quiet and pay attention to the person in front of you and not listen, as in stay quiet and let him have all the fun talking. Women, we all know that you want to talk about your experiences and share your life with another person, even with just a bit of it. But overwhelming your date isn’t exactly a good strategy.
So you might ask me, what’s a good strategy.
A great strategy would be to leave your guys hanging. Again, it’s not about leaving them wanting more for you sexually but leaving them interested about the type of work that you do and what you’re all about.
The truth is, both men and women love mind games. Even if in the end, this would play out as the moth who dove into the flame, this is what keeps passion and inspiration to go for the other person alive.
The challenge is maintaining that rapport once you’re all satisfied and feeling great with your date.
By mind games, we mean subtle discussions over dinner. Some clues that use the context of something else to see if he has the same vibe. You do understand what I’m saying. It means connecting in a way that you don’t have to state the obvious.
This is why some guys read some of our actions as friendzone-ing them when we’re actually just wanting to get to know them a little better so we can trust them.
But there are some big no-no’s when it comes to dating guys.
One, you should never, ever talk about your exes. If you love your guy. Don’t talk about your crushes either. It can crush the date’s ego and think that you’re not interested in them. Of course, they don’t want you treating them like your best friend or girlfriend.
Second is never sharing too much about yourself. As girls, we all know how much we want to hog the conversation and talk about ourselves. Men, being polite, will just let you go on. But there’s a point that men will also break and refuse to talk about, or even acknowledge a second date with you simply because you’re too talkative.
Third is dress properly. No, don’t go with that feminism vibe that ‘he should accept me for what I am’. Girls, dressing up is a way to show your date that you’ve prepared nicely and you want to give him a chance to be serious with you. You want him to feel important at least for a bit.
It also gives you the right to say he wasn’t prepared when you’ve invested time in choosing the right clothes to wear during your date.
So, preliminary pointers aside, welcome to my blog! I hope you enjoy your stay and you find something useful here!
Desiree Avalon signing out!